I get it. 20 years in aircraft maintenance, multiple deployments, I'm not learning your world from a textbook. I know what it's like to come home and not know how to turn it off. The identity question that hits when the uniform comes off. The way “fine” becomes a load-bearing word. Learn more...

You don't get one bad call. You get hundreds, and you're expected to walk into the next one the same as the last. Nobody's tracking what that adds up to but you. I work with that,  the cumulative weight, not just “the one incident,” and the part of you that's furious nobody else seems to notice what the job costs. Learn more...

• PTSD and moral injury- the stuff that isn't just fear, it's “I did something I have to live with”

• Anxiety that hides under being high-functioning

• Identity- who you are when the job, the team, or the mission isn't the answer anymore

• The marriage or relationship that's been running on autopilot while you held everything else together

No nodding along. No “how does that make you feel?” I'll challenge you, sometimes with a little humor, sometimes with none at all, depending on what you can take that day. Growth is uncomfortable sometimes. No amount of worry is going to change the situation, but we can.